April 19, 2020

Happy Monday BOSLadies!

It was so awesome to see all of you who joined the Zoom meeting on Tuesday and thanks to everyone who couldn’t make it but still reached out anyways The second of the below Weekly Three is a piece of what we discussed and (surprise!) we picked out our read for the month of May! We will be reading Mason Currey’s DAILY RITUALS Women at Work. If it sounds familiar, it was mentioned in one of the recent Love Notes in connection to Anna Brones and Creative Fuel. For now, the May meeting will be conducted over Zoom again and I will have that calendar event sent out in the coming week. Please let me know if the second Tuesday of the month does NOT work for you. Looking forward to it already!

The Weekly Three

1. Something about why we should believe in others: four and a half minute video of Viktor Frankl on the Goethe quote below. This, for me, was a life altering concept.

1. Something about wanting someone to check on us: This was a topic that came up during Tuesday’s meeting. Something beautiful to come out of quarantine is that people are going out of their way to check in on one another. People home with kids or with a partner doing essential work especially need this right now for obvious reasons. While certainly not in the same way, isolation is also difficult for those who are living alone. I can personally attest to “singleness” being thrown into sharp relief under the current circumstances. Even when things aren’t so extreme, we all crave to be someone’s “number one”, the person who is most important to someone else. We want to be someone’s top priority, to know that someone cares how we are doing and can be counted upon to ask. Why do we want that so badly and think that we need it? Can we get to the point where we are our own number one? After Tuesday night’s conversation, I’m trying really hard to think about what questions I wish that someone was calling me to ask and asking them for myself. You don’t need that external validation to spend time checking in on yourself. Here’s a quick NPR listen and transcript on loneliness during COVID  

1. Something about making changes: If you’re in the mood for a longer listen, check out this episode of The Stoke Cast with Alastair Humphreys. I recently subscribed to this podcast and can't tell you how huge a fire it lights under my ass. So much great content in this one but my favorite things were: it takes a huge amount of work to make it look like you don’t do any work, many of us want to be a noun (for example, a writer) but we are not willing to do the verb (the writing), the first mile from the doorstep is always the hardest both literally and figuratively, and that

1. Most people want to change

2. Change is really hard

3. Once you begin it, you won’t regret living the life of your choice

Right now is also a great time to learn about Microadventures if you’re not already familiar. These are all accessible, exciting things that can be done relatively close to home and many of them can be done with kids and in your neighborhood (aka social distancing friendly activities).

Thanks for taking the time to read! Enjoy your week and speak to you soon